Sunday, January 11, 2009

I'm Back!

I'm very sorry I took such a long break from this blog, it was actually a reader named James who inspired me to come back, thanks, James. Since my last writing, I left San Diego, moved to Pennsylvania and am now a children's counselor in a children's psychiatric hospital. The stuttering doesn't get in the way of this job hardly at all, it seems. The only thing I have trouble with at all is if I have to call out to parents or clinicians to report things. That is very difficult, because I have to introduce myself, say where I'm calling from and then wait for recognition. Talking to the kids is not difficult at all. Mostly, they just think I pause and think a lot, which is what we're supposed to do anyway. :) And doing group sessions is especially easy because, as I've indicated before, talking before groups is, strangely, the times where I stutter the least. Go figure.

Also, we carry radios at certain times in case of a crisis situation and if one occurs, we are supposed to radio to the mobile support team. I've yet to be able to do this. If ever they need to be called, I ask someone else to do it. I'm sure that if I'm in a pinch, I could do it, with stumblings, but whatever.

What continues to annoy me in my stuttering world is the people who, when they discover that I stutter, they play it off as if everyone stutters. "Oh, I do that! It's not a big deal." No, you do NOT do that. You occasionally stumble over your words as most human beings do, but you do NOT have a persistent developmental stutter that causes you daily stress in what most see as ordinary situations, like introducing yourself, or answering a simple phone call or approaching a clerk to ask him where the light bulbs are located. When you have that daily stress, then tell me, "Oh, I do that!"

I know they mean well and they don't mean to play down the condition, but it still annoys me sometimes. You, too?


Nastassia said...

I know how you feel about the "Oh, me too!"
I always want to launch into a tirade about how half the time I order the wrong thing on purpose or get hung up on on the phone, but it's really inappropriate to do that. Unfortunately.
They're trying to be nice. At least they're not mocking you back, eh?

Stuttering Stanley said...

Yeah, it is...makes you sound like you have a big problem or something, lol. And you're right...they aren't mocking, just trying to be nice. :)

Anonymous said...

I hate when poeple say things like that! Lol... What else I don't like is when people seem to start stuttering around me and ONLY me, sometimes I know they are doing it to be nice, but other times I know they are just mocking. But I guess I'm going to have to deal with people like that my whole life. [:

Anonymous said...

Hello Stanley,

I would like to know why you are longer pursuing your law career. Is it because of the stuttering , and also the stress involved ?

Mike said...

I know exactly how you feel... I've heard this so many times in my life. Two times it's been sincere.

As if we're supposed to feel comforted we're not the only ones? That we're ACTUALLY human?

I tend to just ignore it now when they say it and not give them any recognition... unless of course they actually HAVE or HAVE HAD that issue.

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